Family Tree - Family Values

Perhaps I can call this my New Year's epistle. I was a Senior Counsellor for many years, and when I got ill sometime back had to retire from that trade, or profession. It was a worthwhile adventure, and it took a decade or two of my life, but here is just a quick essay of sorts on Family Values, as I see it. The rate of Divorce and break-up of the family is increasing. Fierce forces are tearing us apart, the family, today. It goes something like this: they got married; then came the baby carriage. Part two: they break up and the baby goes with mom. Part Three: now Mom meets divorced man, with two kids, and they marry; now we got mom, dad, stepfather, and three kids, stepbrothers and sisters, a few more grandparents, throw the biology in the well. Woops, mom is pregnant again, Part Four: snuck up on me. Is this case unusual? No! as we should know, it is rather common in the United States today. What happens to the family tree? You plant a new one, but they never grow right do they (or seldom do they grow right). Often times, getting a second wife, or husband is like picking up someone else's troubles, ten years in advance. But the story is not over. In the l980s and l990s when I was working with the Bureau of Prisons, and in clinics and hospitals, over 1/3 to ? of children were living with a mixed if not, scared family; I doubt the statistics has gotten any better. This is over 10% of the population, closer to 13 or 15% I would guess. In the l970s half of all the marriages ended up in divorce, thirty years later, again I say, things have not gotten better. When I grew up, divorce was not really an acceptable word; yes it was said, but whoever said it, everyone else did a double take on the person. Now it is all lost in the wind. The devastating rate of divorces is destroying the base of our society, the joyful family you could say. In Peru, and other South American Countries I've been to, and I've been to most all of them now, I have not seen this splintering up of families, which lowers the values within them; nor have I witnessed the mobility of one out of four families picking up roots and moving on each year, as we do in the United States. Our neighbour Jennie, in Peru stays home and cares for her child, as do most of the families I know up in the mountain areas of Peru. When two partners come home from work tired, there has to be more tension, and surely the kids get no friendliness out of this tired family dilemma. So what happens? The kids run to the TV and get their fix of killing, and war movies, gangsters etc (the devil doesn't have to work hard). And people say: it doesn't affect the child, it does and we all know it. What we put into our systems, is in it, how it comes out, is normally sideways, and it affects all whom are around you. In Minnesota, the court system is so liberal, it stinks, you can get a divorce almost overnight, it is harder to get a drivers license. I think I remember Jesus saying something like: "As it was in the days of Lot (where there was much corruption)...out of Sodom it rained fire and brimstone from heaven, and destroyed them all. Even thus shall it be in the day when the Son of man is revealed (Luke 17:28). If you know the story of Sodom and Gomorrah, I need not say anything else, but if you don't, judgment fell, and so we have witnessed in the year 2005, and 2001 for America, if it wasn't judgment, it was a hell of a bad year for many folks. I hope 2006 will be better, but I doubt it, the roots of society have been ripped out, and the signs for the end times are planted. For those none believers, I'm not trying to persuade you to a religion, it is fact, our society is going down hill'we all know it, and if there is a God, and if the flood was real, and geologist say it was, fire and destruction will come again soon. And if there is no God, we better hope there is, or we are doomed even sooner. But if I was a none believer, I would most likely say: it is true what he says, but what I can I do (besides prayer). Good question, and some of my friends are none believers and are doing more than God's so called chosen, what a shame. Whatever you are led to do, out of conviction, for humanity, it will be appreciated, perhaps by those who will never know you. We all should remember, this is not a left or right wing thing, it is a societal thing, it just happens to be the writer is a Christian, but I do not want to make any hurdles for anyone, at the end of the road, we all got to live together. See Dennis' web site: http://dennissiluk.tripod.com Article Source:http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Dennis_Siluk